Tuesday, May 7, 2013

Just One of Those Days...Weeks...Months...

Yeah, it's been that way.
We have had some losses in the family and other family members with medical problems, some with financial problems...all way 'round, the past month has sucked.
So...just going to ramble on a bit here...and vent a bit.
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The Darlin' Man's sister-in-law passed on. She was only 35 and had an 18 month old baby son. The Darlin' Man's brother is distraught (as is to be expected) as well as the rest of the family. Cancer was the reason for her passing. Cancer sucks. If I could banish only one disease off the face of this planet, it would be cancer. She was her parents only daughter and they are devastated by the loss. They watched their daughter as she endured the past 6 months of surgery, chemo and radiation...every time hoping the doctor would stumble across the one treatment that would bring a cure. Her husband hoped and prayed, too, but to no avail. It was discovered too late.
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My daughter in law lost her beloved grandfather about a week or so ago. She and my son adored the old gentleman and had arranged for his care at a nursing home just a few weeks earlier. He passed on in his sleep. Still, that doesn't lessen the pain they are feeling.
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PLEASE, before anyone mistakenly posts such gawdawful platitudes such as "They are in a better place" or "The Lord only takes his favorites" or any crap like that, STOP and think!
Inane platitudes like that only annoy the grieving and make them feel guilty for their grief! You do NOT acknowledge their pain by saying such things, you NEGATE the pain they are feeling. Those banalities do NOT comfort the living.
Yes, death is a part of life, but the people left behind have pain and sorrow. Allow them to have that pain and sorrow! Say something like "This is so awful", or "I wish you didn't have to suffer this loss" or even "This fucking sucks" Let them grieve, they need to.
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As for the medical problems in the family...those are working their way through, more or less. Some getting better, some getting worse, some issues still up in the air, so to speak.
Sometimes all you can do is hang on and wait.
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The Boy is going on a school field trip. It turned out to be WAY more expensive that the teacher originally told us it would be. We were able to scrap together the money needed at the last minute, thank goodness.
Still, the students had to sell candy for months to fund the trip. LOTS of cheap, awful tasting candy. I got so damn mad every time that poor kid lugged another case of candy home from school. He sold loads of it to friends and neighbors and his sales covered a teensy bit less than half the cost of this field trip. We still had to pay $275.! Cost of field trip total is $500.! PLUS, he has to take extra money to pay for meals!
What ever happened to "booster" clubs that the parents participated in? Our field trips were funded by cake sales, car washes, a haunted house at Halloween and concession sales at football games. The students and parents working together!
I sincerely wish that schools would BAN students having to sell stuff to fund trips, etc. It's a bunch of BS!
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 That's about all the rambling I'll do today. Been stressed out a bit, angry a bit, sad a bit...all the negatives have out weighed the positives recently.
Basically, I have wanted to scream, punch somebody and vent! But screaming upsets the animals, if I punch somebody around here, they will most likely punch back, so I'll confine myself to venting here!
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Here's hoping that things will get better, that we will all be able to cope with whatever nasty things are thrown in our paths...and I wish all that for all my blog friends out there, too!


8 comments:

  1. Lamb,

    Cancer is a disease I wish we had a cure for. Having cancer is a hard thing to deal with for the patient and family. My Dad is fighting for his life right now, long story short he has metastatic carcinoma. He went through surgery and radiation on his vertebrae, then his brain and now he's going through chemo to reduce/kill the tumor in his esophagus.
    I would like to kick cancers ass right out the door.
    I'm sending prayers to your husbands brother, child, parents and your family. I wish I could take the pain away.

    That darn candy selling thing in school has to go, they used to do that when I was in school and the profits never amounted to enough for any of the school trips. The school needs to have a good PTA which has the support and donations to help all families with these over night field trips. I hope your son enjoys his trip and brings back a lot of memories.
    You go ahead and vent here on the blog, your friends will support you.

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    1. Thanks, Sandy! Sorry to hear about your dad's battle.
      I would help you kick cancer's ass out the door and off the planet if it were possible!

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  2. Sending you a huge wad of hugs!!!
    Been there done that here too, seems to be going around, though that doesn't make it any better. Nothing like everything going wrong at once.

    Cancer is an awful way to go, & you can only hear someone say "I'm sorry but they're better off" so many times before you feel like screaming.

    Yeah, the selling thing is a waste. The stuff is overpriced, doesn't taste good, & the trips they want these kids to pay for are ridiculous.The least they could do is have them sell towels, knick knacks, kitchen stuff, golf clubs...stuff people might actually use.

    So I will leave off with.... I hope things get better & the negative stuff lays off you all for a while.
    I'm sorry things have been so bad, & I wish I could be there to offer some support.

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    1. Thanks Tina. You know some of the battles I have been through and you know I generally keep a cheerful attitude....but right now, everything has been so crappy, I seem to have lost my cheerful *mojo*.
      And I swear, if that kid brings home one more box of craptastic chocolate bars, I am taking them right back up to the school and shoving them down that teachers throat!

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  3. When I talk to my Dad and he says he's having a bad day (almost apologetically)I remind him that it's okay to miss Mom (they were married for 62 years) and go ahead and have a good cry! It is hard to be left behind when someone dies. It truly does suck.

    I completely agree with your sentiments about school fund raisers. We missed out on all that fun when we homeschooled but I've gotten a quick education here in Iowa with our two youngest in school. Goodness! Everytime I turn around there's something else to buy or support or donate too. "When I was in school, in the olden days, the school paid for just about everything. That's what taxes were for." Now I'll get off my soap box and go to the band concert. Thanks for sharing, and keep up the good work.

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    1. Rozy, YES! You hit the nail on the head! It IS okay to cry when you feel loss or sorrow when a loved one dies.I lost my father 24 years ago and sometimes I still have a good cry when I miss him so much.
      It seems society or our culture views sorrow as a *bad thing* and many think it is not okay to have these feelings. It IS okay to get angry or sad or mourn.

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  4. This fn sucks. For real. I'm so sorry for the pain you must all be going through.

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    1. Thanks, Sci. Besides the pain, I just want to punch walls, you know? (But I restrain myself because I would have to be the one to fix the holes!)

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